Being a Wallflower Part One

If you are anything like me, you can fully understand this…

And this…

If you have not guessed, I am talking about introverts today. Any introverts here?

*waves both of my arms*

Yup, I am an introvert, and today we will be taking a look into what an introvert is.

One of the first things you might think of when you hear the word ‘introvert’ is fear. Someone who lives life in fear of the outside world, but that is not true.

A couple of definitions are:

A person who tends to shrink from social contacts and to become preoccupied with their thoughts

A shy, reticent person.

One who gains energy from alone time, one who thinks before they speak

There are so many different topics about introverts:

What is an introvert? The myths and misconceptions that often surround the introvert personality. What is it like being an introvert?

Well, let’s do the science first, doesn’t that sound fun?

First, some common introvert traits are:

  • Introverts express themselves better in writing than in conversation…hello!
  • We prefer to socialize one on one or in small groups rather than large ones
  • We enjoy solitary or quiet activities that require focus
  • We prefer not to be the center of attention
  • Introverts prefer working in quiet, independent environments
  • And can be seen as reserved
  • Introverts are drained by social activities

Another thing you may think about an introvert is someone who is ridiculously shy or doesn’t like people or someone who doesn’t like to talk.

All of those are not true, there are so many myths and the misconceptions that surround introverts.

Let’s tackle some:

Myth: Introverts don’t like to talk Truth: We don’t talk unless we have something to say. Especially in groups of people.

Myth: Introverts are shy Truth: This is partly true, we are shy. But also, we need a reason to interact. We don’t interact for the sake of interacting.

Myth: Introverts don’t like people Truth: We create a certain group of people we trust, and feel like we can be ourselves around . When we are in a large group of people, we tend to be reserved. But if we around that trusted group, we are just fine.

Myth: Introverts don’t like to go out in public. Truth: We take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, the longer we are out, the more out “battery” drains. When it goes dead, we are ready to go home and recharge.

Recharging is crucial for introverts; we need that alone time or time in our space to recharge.

Myth: Introverts can become extroverts Truth: Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament

There, those are some myths taken care of!

Some might say being an introvert is boring or horrible, well, first off, if everyone was like everyone else, the world would be a pretty boring place. And second, being an introvert kind of gives us a different outlook on life.

There are “gifts” that introverts have, such as:

Observation. While we often stay in the background, and look like we are zoning out or maybe being “snobbish” we are observing and watching the world. We often notice subtleties that go unnoticed to others.

And we are easily entertained. We are rarely board; we can find endless entrainment in our imagination or our favorite quite pastime.

 Those are some facts about introverts, we are unique people and cannot fix themselves.

So, don’t ask,

We don’t “choose” to be this way, everyone is made up of different elements, genes, and personalities, it is what makes us unique and different from other people.

So, that’s some science around introverts and a peek into our world. Part Two will be next week!