Being an Wallflower Part Two – The World of an Introvert

Psst…if you would like to read part one first…click here!

Two weeks ago, when I wrote Wallflower Part Two, I thought it was pretty good. I typed it up, saved in WordPress, ready to be posted.

But then, one of my best friends, who is an introvert, got me to take a personality quiz yesterday. And she discovered she has the personality type of the INFJ. Which means Introvert. Intuition. Feeling. Judgment. And then she wanted me to take the same quiz. And I did, while I can relate a lot to the INFJ personality…

According to “science” and 16personalities.com, I am the ISFP personality….

While I don’t fully agree with the results, I can see I am more of an INFJ than an ISFP. So, I guess I am a mix of both.

With all this information opening up a whole new world, I was also gaining new inspiration. And then my friend wrote an “essay” about her being an introvert/ INFJ, and like that, *poof*! went my original post.

Thanks so much, Aspen.

So, this is the new part two, it will be a mix of the original with new inspiration, and Aspen’s essay.

The personalities together make up a very small percentage of the other personality types, so we are a rare group of people. And because of that we are often feel misunderstood and distant from the world.

We’re different and not quite like others, we are often lonely in a crowd and often have dozens of thoughts racing through our head.

We have our likes and our dislikes; we don’t like talking on the phone to someone we don’t know, we love blending into the background, and we don’t like going into an unknown situation.

And I know what you might be thinking, ‘how can they handle the world?’ ‘no one can survive like that’ ‘they have to change.’

It’s a common misconception that introverts can just magically become outgoing people and change, we can’t.

God, in His infinite wisdom, created me and Aspen just the way we are with the right personality.

He made us to be introverts, dreamers, observers, listeners, deep thinkers, and unique.

He created us this way, and therefore He understands us, even when it’s difficult for others to understand us. God always does.

Parts of Psalm 139 says:

O Lord, You have searched me and known me.

2 You know my sitting down and my rising up;

You understand my thought afar off

4 For there is not a word on my tongue,

But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.

5 You have hedged me behind and before,

And laid Your hand upon me.

6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;

It is high, I cannot attain it.

14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

Marvelous are Your works,

And that my soul knows very well.

We are special to God and He has a perfect plan for us through our unique personalities of INFJ and ISFP. And boy do we have lots of different “quirks”!

Though, like everyone else, we have our strengths, weakness’ and struggles. It’s not easy being an introvert, sometimes we are sucked into uncomfortable situations. While others might think pushing us into difficult situations might help us, it often does more harm than good.

Getting in the middle of the action makes us uneasy and we tend to be awkward in a new situation, so the best thing is to stay on the sidelines and observe.

An introvert’s worst fear is awkward or embarrassing situations because that can usually mean the center of attention, and then the best solution to that is to make a wish to the magic genie for a giant hole to swallow us up.

Contrary to popular belief, being an introvert doesn’t mean we are friendless, anti-social, scared, or insecure. It may mean that we are awkward, quiet, sensitive, cautious, and a little different, but that can’t stop us from being who we are and bringing glory to our Creator.

There are many joys and gifts that surround an introvert. While we often stay in the background and look like we are zoning out or maybe being “snobbish” we are observing and watching the world. We often notice subtleties that go unnoticed to others.

We are easily entertained. We are rarely board; we can find endless entrainment in our imagination or our favorite quite pastime.

We are good listeners, conflict solvers. and we are understanding. When you combine introversion, intuition, and feelings, you get a person full of observations and relatable emotions. INFJs spend their life studying people and how they interact. After collecting the years-worth of data, they develop a great skill for understanding. INFJs can easily see when someone is uncomfortable, sad, angry, lonely, bored, or even being deceptive. INFJs can often feel the pain of others. They know more than they say. They think more than they speak. And they observe more than you know.

This is the greatest skill of an INFJ and it can be a huge blessing to others when it is used in the right way.

That pretty much wraps it up…now that I have told you that facts, and details of introversion, what do you do?

Well, first off, if you know an introvert, respect them and don’t push them into situations where they are going to be uncomfortable and miserable. It’s happened to me, and while the person had good intent of trying to get me out of my comfort zone or something similar, it does not accomplish anything.  Second, if a person says they need to “recharge”, let them. Recharging is essential and if we don’t get it…well…

And finally, we can’t fix ourselves, God created me and other introverts this way for a reason. And it’s through my unique personality that I have the gift of writing and “introspective outlook” that I bring to you every week.

God didn’t make me to be like everyone else. He made us unique from everyone else. We are still going to carry the personality of an INFJ and ISFP, but that isn’t going to stop us from standing tall through our uniqueness and becoming the person that God has planned for us.